Comments on: Only Women Will Understand This Post http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/ The stories of a part-time librarian mixed with nonfiction book reviews. Join in the fun! Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:54:24 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 By: Ann http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4788 Ann Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:25:32 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4788 So, Hava, I should just let you know: On Friday, the guy came in, but with another guy who I know is a caretaker (he's been in quite a bit with some others), so there is the answer to your big mystery! It's crazy, cuz that guy doesn't seem like he needs a caretaker. So, Hava, I should just let you know: On Friday, the guy came in, but with another guy who I know is a caretaker (he’s been in quite a bit with some others), so there is the answer to your big mystery! It’s crazy, cuz that guy doesn’t seem like he needs a caretaker.

]]> By: QltrNan http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4335 QltrNan Sat, 17 Jan 2009 03:58:29 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4335 Well, Havilah, this was a great story! Of course, now that we know they are at least friends, perhaps not dating, but definitely not married or related to each other, I'll add this. I really think they may just be really, really quiet people. Cerebral. Maybe there's no chemistry out in public, but who knows what they're like when it's just the two of them? Socially awkward, definitely, but maybe not when they're in non-public places. And, that's my two cents worth. Well, Havilah, this was a great story! Of course, now that we know they are at least friends, perhaps not dating, but definitely not married or related to each other, I’ll add this.

I really think they may just be really, really quiet people. Cerebral. Maybe there’s no chemistry out in public, but who knows what they’re like when it’s just the two of them? Socially awkward, definitely, but maybe not when they’re in non-public places.

And, that’s my two cents worth.

]]> By: Hava http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4309 Hava Wed, 14 Jan 2009 22:16:05 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4309 Flit >> LOL! Thanks for the suggestion. Now <em>that</em> is just a strange relationship. ;-) Stephanie >> I don't know which is more "unnormal" - caring about things that will not affect my quality of life in the slightest, or realizing that these things are too stupid to care about and therefore not caring at all. All in all, your approach is probably more sane. ;-) Tiffy >> Yeah, I definitely don't ever dread seeing them either - they are both polite, quiet, and don't try to overrun their alloted hour of use on the computer. They do exactly what they're supposed to do, and nothing else. It's just the STRANGENESS of it all that piques my curiosity. And if you ever ask them, you have to promise to tell me RIGHT AWAY what they say. LOL! Em >> Hey girl!!! It's so good to see you on here. :-D I'm glad you came by, and left a comment so I know you came. That's just too cool. I miss you too, and hope we can see you this summer sometime. ??? In the meanwhile, make sure to check back often on my site, so you can get your daily dish of "Devoid Havilah" (sorry to everyone else - inside joke there). ;-) Kikit >> The thing is, they arrive together in the same vehicle, and leave together in the same vehicle. They are definitely in <em>some</em> sort of relationship outside of the library. Chris >> I am happy to say (or should I be embarrassed that I actually cared enough to do it?) that I did that, after putting up this post. The last time I helped them out, I left their accounts up on the computer so I could compare them. Turns out, they have different last names, and different addresses (not even very close to one another either). So definitely not siblings or married to each other, so that leaves just friends or boyfriend/girlfriend. Considering how regularly they come in together, I am leaning towards ruling out the "just friends" option, just because no matter how friendly I am with someone, I don't normally set up a standing date with them, KWIM? Especially not one that happens every single morning, 6 days a week. So despite their extreme lack of chemistry, I really have to believe that they are dating each other. Perhaps they believe that you should not display any affection towards each other in public, and believe that even talking to each other in public is too much. Or maybe they are just very, very shy, and so they don't talk much with people, even the ones they are dating (and in all the times I've helped them, neither of them have said more than a handful of words to me. They don't chat about the weather, or how busy it is at the library - they ask for a computer, they get their number, they are on their way. There is absolutely no extras in there anywhere). Agree? Disagree? Tell me your thoughts. Hava <em>Who can't believe she admitted to looking at the addresses, just to satisfy her curiosity...</em> Flit >> LOL! Thanks for the suggestion. Now that is just a strange relationship. ;-)

Stephanie >> I don’t know which is more “unnormal” - caring about things that will not affect my quality of life in the slightest, or realizing that these things are too stupid to care about and therefore not caring at all. All in all, your approach is probably more sane. ;-)

Tiffy >> Yeah, I definitely don’t ever dread seeing them either - they are both polite, quiet, and don’t try to overrun their alloted hour of use on the computer. They do exactly what they’re supposed to do, and nothing else. It’s just the STRANGENESS of it all that piques my curiosity.

And if you ever ask them, you have to promise to tell me RIGHT AWAY what they say. LOL!

Em >> Hey girl!!! It’s so good to see you on here. :-D I’m glad you came by, and left a comment so I know you came. That’s just too cool. I miss you too, and hope we can see you this summer sometime. ??? In the meanwhile, make sure to check back often on my site, so you can get your daily dish of “Devoid Havilah” (sorry to everyone else - inside joke there). ;-)

Kikit >> The thing is, they arrive together in the same vehicle, and leave together in the same vehicle. They are definitely in some sort of relationship outside of the library.

Chris >> I am happy to say (or should I be embarrassed that I actually cared enough to do it?) that I did that, after putting up this post. The last time I helped them out, I left their accounts up on the computer so I could compare them.

Turns out, they have different last names, and different addresses (not even very close to one another either). So definitely not siblings or married to each other, so that leaves just friends or boyfriend/girlfriend.

Considering how regularly they come in together, I am leaning towards ruling out the “just friends” option, just because no matter how friendly I am with someone, I don’t normally set up a standing date with them, KWIM? Especially not one that happens every single morning, 6 days a week.

So despite their extreme lack of chemistry, I really have to believe that they are dating each other. Perhaps they believe that you should not display any affection towards each other in public, and believe that even talking to each other in public is too much.

Or maybe they are just very, very shy, and so they don’t talk much with people, even the ones they are dating (and in all the times I’ve helped them, neither of them have said more than a handful of words to me. They don’t chat about the weather, or how busy it is at the library - they ask for a computer, they get their number, they are on their way. There is absolutely no extras in there anywhere).

Agree? Disagree? Tell me your thoughts.

Hava
Who can’t believe she admitted to looking at the addresses, just to satisfy her curiosity…

]]> By: Chris http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4305 Chris Wed, 14 Jan 2009 20:58:21 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4305 I'm not sure.... maybe you could use the system to look at their last names when they use the computers, that way you could rule out bro/sis or husband/wife. I’m not sure…. maybe you could use the system to look at their last names when they use the computers, that way you could rule out bro/sis or husband/wife.

]]> By: Em in Vegas http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4299 Em in Vegas Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:13:22 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4299 I laughed out loud, twice when I read this post!! You are hysterical, and yes I would be wondering the same thing!!! I don't have any good ideas but I sure want to know the dynamic of there relationship when you figure it out. Thanks for the laugh!! I sure miss you. Em I laughed out loud, twice when I read this post!! You are hysterical, and yes I would be wondering the same thing!!! I don’t have any good ideas but I sure want to know the dynamic of there relationship when you figure it out. Thanks for the laugh!! I sure miss you. Em

]]> By: Tiffy http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4288 Tiffy Mon, 12 Jan 2009 01:03:49 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4288 Well, I can't bring an outside perspective, because I know exactly who you are talking about. :-) All I can say is that I can relate, because I have wondered the same thing myself! I am practical and I have also been known as girly-girl, so I think maybe you can be both, right? It is interesting that the two people you speak of never have once spoken one word to each other...not one. Whether they are friends, neighbors, boyfriend/girlfriend, you would think they would speak at least one word or maybe two. I think that is why it is so curious. It is a bit odd, but I guess not as odd as peeing on a book. :-) Hey, we have to amuse ourselves at the library somehow, right? At least these two look like saints compared to the POB and other "joyous" patrons. I never dread seeing them. I just am left with curiosity and I suppose that isn't a bad thing. :-) Maybe when I am feeling pretty daring I will ask them one day... Well, I can’t bring an outside perspective, because I know exactly who you are talking about. :-) All I can say is that I can relate, because I have wondered the same thing myself! I am practical and I have also been known as girly-girl, so I think maybe you can be both, right? It is interesting that the two people you speak of never have once spoken one word to each other…not one. Whether they are friends, neighbors, boyfriend/girlfriend, you would think they would speak at least one word or maybe two. I think that is why it is so curious. It is a bit odd, but I guess not as odd as peeing on a book. :-) Hey, we have to amuse ourselves at the library somehow, right? At least these two look like saints compared to the POB and other “joyous” patrons. I never dread seeing them. I just am left with curiosity and I suppose that isn’t a bad thing. :-) Maybe when I am feeling pretty daring I will ask them one day…

]]> By: stephanieebarr http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4287 stephanieebarr Sun, 11 Jan 2009 20:53:41 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4287 I can think of many explanations, depending on age, including neighbor kids who go to the library together because of a ride situation, kids assigned to be lab partners and who come to the library (in theory, to work together) but prefer to spend that time otherwise. But, I will tell you, I'm clearly more male than you, because I'm completely missing the gene that worries about stuff like that. And I've pushed out three children. I'm not like normal people. You don't have to tell me. I know. I can think of many explanations, depending on age, including neighbor kids who go to the library together because of a ride situation, kids assigned to be lab partners and who come to the library (in theory, to work together) but prefer to spend that time otherwise.

But, I will tell you, I’m clearly more male than you, because I’m completely missing the gene that worries about stuff like that. And I’ve pushed out three children.

I’m not like normal people. You don’t have to tell me. I know.

]]> By: flit http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4286 flit Sun, 11 Jan 2009 19:49:01 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/01/10/only-women-will-understand-this-post/#comment-4286 maybe they are boyfriend and girlfriend - but its an online only relationship :) maybe they are boyfriend and girlfriend - but its an online only relationship :)

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