Comments on: More Than I Wanted to Know http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/ The stories of a part-time librarian mixed with nonfiction book reviews. Join in the fun! Mon, 28 Dec 2009 14:13:55 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 By: Hava http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5089 Hava Wed, 15 Apr 2009 04:00:27 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5089 Jeane >> Thanks for your comment. It is an awkward situation. I'm not sure if there's an entry in the Miss Manners book for something like this, KWIM? Stephanie >> I'm a total fan of finding things online too. I hit Google way before I hit the shelves at the library. But although Google is good for articles and for forums (for support groups, etc) I like books to get in-depth information and really feel like I have learned a lot on a particular subject. Strange thing: I have yet to meet anyone who has liked their divorce. They are just nasty things all the way around. Even when it's a really good thing that you're divorcing, it still isn't fun. But I am glad to know you're with a good guy now. Phyl >> That's a good idea; thank you. :-) Hava <em>Who just hit her 7th wedding anniversary on Sunday, and is feeling very lucky and special right about now...</em> Jeane >> Thanks for your comment. It is an awkward situation. I’m not sure if there’s an entry in the Miss Manners book for something like this, KWIM?

Stephanie >> I’m a total fan of finding things online too. I hit Google way before I hit the shelves at the library. But although Google is good for articles and for forums (for support groups, etc) I like books to get in-depth information and really feel like I have learned a lot on a particular subject.

Strange thing: I have yet to meet anyone who has liked their divorce. They are just nasty things all the way around. Even when it’s a really good thing that you’re divorcing, it still isn’t fun. But I am glad to know you’re with a good guy now.

Phyl >> That’s a good idea; thank you. :-)

Hava
Who just hit her 7th wedding anniversary on Sunday, and is feeling very lucky and special right about now…

]]> By: stephanieebarr http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5080 stephanieebarr Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:05:01 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5080 I have also often done research on topics for friends, though, admittedly, I'm usually going to the internet first. Relative gets Crohn's disease? I want to know what it is? I hope your coworker comes through whatever OK. I hated my divorce; it was awful, just better than the marriage before. I have also often done research on topics for friends, though, admittedly, I’m usually going to the internet first. Relative gets Crohn’s disease? I want to know what it is?

I hope your coworker comes through whatever OK.

I hated my divorce; it was awful, just better than the marriage before.

]]> By: Hava http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5077 Hava Tue, 14 Apr 2009 14:15:33 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5077 I was laying in bed last night, thinking about this, and I realized that I didn't clarify something. I did not tell a single soul on this planet (and that includes my husband, surprisingly enough - he usually hears everything) who this person is, or <em>any</em> identifying information about them whatsoever. I didn't post this so that all of my coworkers would stand around and play the game of "try to figure out who this is" - I posted it because it made me sad, and it made me uncomfortable when I sat and actually thought through how much information I am privy to, most times without meaning to be. Anyway, I haven't had a single coworker or friend ask me about this post - I'm not writing this because I've seen the above in action and it bothered me. I'm just writing it because as I laid in bed last night and thought about this, I realized that an outsider who doesn't know me well might mistake my motives in this case, and read something into this post that isn't there. That's all. :-) Carrie >> There must be something in the air - I was discussing divorce with a coworker just this past Saturday. He was able to list off a variety of people just in his own family who have divorced. It really is sad. But I think what makes it worse in this case is that this person has no clue that I know, and probably doesn't want me to know. (I'm pretty sure that's safe to assume, considering this person hasn't come up to me and spilled their marital woes.) Makes me wish there was an erase button in my brain, KWIM? lol. I Heart Monster >> I did think about that, and so yeah, that is a possibility. I had noticed some behavior changes in this person lately, though (had noticed before I even saw the books) so I'm guessing that's not it. I'll probably never know, though, unless the divorce actually happens and the information gets around the library. As for me, myself, and I, I am going to pretend as if none of this happened and continue to be oblivious to everything. Life is much nicer when you're oblivious, I've decided. Hava I was laying in bed last night, thinking about this, and I realized that I didn’t clarify something. I did not tell a single soul on this planet (and that includes my husband, surprisingly enough - he usually hears everything) who this person is, or any identifying information about them whatsoever. I didn’t post this so that all of my coworkers would stand around and play the game of “try to figure out who this is” - I posted it because it made me sad, and it made me uncomfortable when I sat and actually thought through how much information I am privy to, most times without meaning to be.

Anyway, I haven’t had a single coworker or friend ask me about this post - I’m not writing this because I’ve seen the above in action and it bothered me. I’m just writing it because as I laid in bed last night and thought about this, I realized that an outsider who doesn’t know me well might mistake my motives in this case, and read something into this post that isn’t there. That’s all. :-)

Carrie >> There must be something in the air - I was discussing divorce with a coworker just this past Saturday. He was able to list off a variety of people just in his own family who have divorced. It really is sad. But I think what makes it worse in this case is that this person has no clue that I know, and probably doesn’t want me to know. (I’m pretty sure that’s safe to assume, considering this person hasn’t come up to me and spilled their marital woes.) Makes me wish there was an erase button in my brain, KWIM? lol.

I Heart Monster >> I did think about that, and so yeah, that is a possibility. I had noticed some behavior changes in this person lately, though (had noticed before I even saw the books) so I’m guessing that’s not it. I’ll probably never know, though, unless the divorce actually happens and the information gets around the library.

As for me, myself, and I, I am going to pretend as if none of this happened and continue to be oblivious to everything. Life is much nicer when you’re oblivious, I’ve decided.

Hava

]]> By: Carrie http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5074 Carrie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 00:09:58 +0000 http://nonfictionlover.today.com/2009/04/13/more-than-i-wanted-to-know/#comment-5074 That is so sad! My husband and I were talking last night, and we came up with nine couples that we know personally who have divorced or are in the process of divorcing - just since last summer! One of them is my sister. It's so hard to know what to say to someone going through this. That is so sad! My husband and I were talking last night, and we came up with nine couples that we know personally who have divorced or are in the process of divorcing - just since last summer! One of them is my sister. It’s so hard to know what to say to someone going through this.

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